Avoid These Common Dating Turn-offs

If you’re not having success in your dating life it could be because you are inadvertently exhibiting one or more of these common dating turn-offs:

• Being overly clingy or needy

• Arrogance

• Excessive use of technology

• Negativity 

• Selfishness

• Lack of clear communication

• Ignoring boundaries, insensitive behavior, or rudeness

• Being late or unreliable

• Lack of ambition or initiative

• Lying or dishonesty

• Excessive talking about your exes

• Poor hygiene

While everyone has different pet peeves, this list encompasses things that are widely reported to be unattractive. Look over this list and be honest with yourself about whether you might be pushing away potential partners by doing any of these things.

What to do instead

The most important things you can do are be yourself, be authentic, and be honest. Stay mindful about how your behaviors might affect those around you. Communicate your needs and feelings directly and openly. Treat others with kindness and courtesy, even if you’re not interested in them romantically. Be a good listener, taking time to really hear what the other person has to say. Take care of yourself so you can feel confident. Self-assurance is attractive, so don’t be afraid of putting yourself out there.